anyone having odd luck lately?
I have been having some weird luck.
I get laid off from one contract, only to get picked up starting next week by another.
I found a great girlfriend, and my business proposition for a grant reached someone’s desk.
I also found some nice equipment for my new gaming rig real good real cheap.
My luck seems to be looking up, anyone else seeing this in their lives?
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See:
http://abdlstoryforum.myfastforum.org/about2414.html
Congrats on your girl/business/gaming stuff.
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Good to know you’re not alone WingZ, right?
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Has my luck changed for the better? Let’s see…
Still unemployed? Check.
Still broke? Check.
Still overextended on my credit? Check.
Nope, no upswing in my luck yet.
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I have a many hobbies, but one that I enjoy as well as my father, is jewelery making.
I have been setting CZ into stones for a bit, did it for a few friends, and reset some cheap stones with other ones.
Recently after a night at the bar with an old friend I met up with he offered to help me get my business ventures off of the ground.
He saw my setup when he checked my house, and offered to let me use his flea market table, and for a small fee set up a website for me.
This seems to be a good idea to me.
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Still not employed fully so I am trying to get another job.
I have not had my period in over 30 days
This fricken heat wave we’re in
Been tired lately
My breasts have been sore
My bank account got all messed up so now I am having money problems
My credit card bill that was due on the seventh, I paid it early and thought they were going to charge it that day it was due but no they decided to take the money from my account so I got overdrawn and it cost me ten dollars for them to draw the rest from my savings. Companies do not take money from your bank account until the due date when you have paid them the bill. Then on July 31st, my landlord decides to cash my August rent early so I got over drawn again so there went another ten dollars so I went to my savings and transferred the rest for my upcoming bills to my checking so it won’t get over drawn again in case those companies decide to take money out of my bank account early before the due date.
I’ve been getting these really bad cramps in my uterus area thinking my period is coming but it never comes
I send out thank you cards after my wedding and I get a letter back from one of my aunts telling me how disappointed she is and hurt for the comment I made to her in the card. Now I wonder how many other relatives I have offended and if I had said anything inappropriate in them.
I didn’t know there was rules about writing out thank you cards, eg. Don’t put jokes in them or mention cost.
I forgot to put in my cousin’s name in the thank you card and my aunt also told me that was hurtful. Now I wonder how many other names I have forgotten to put in my thank you cards.
No one told me to not say “You may be cheap but you aren’t cheap enough to not get us a wedding present” to my aunt and her husband because it might hurt their feelings. Everyone laughed at the wedding when I said it so I didn’t know it be offensive to her and I thought it was a compliment. No one told me what cheap really meant and never told me it was an insult. My mom calls me cheap and calls herself cheap and my dad says my aunt and uncle are cheap. I felt gypped by them.
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No one told me to not say “You may be cheap but you aren’t cheap enough to not get us a wedding present” to my aunt and her husband because it might hurt their feelings. Everyone laughed at the wedding when I said it so I didn’t know it be offensive to her and I thought it was a compliment. No one told me what cheap really meant and never told me it was an insult. My mom calls me cheap and calls herself cheap and my dad says my aunt and uncle are cheap. I felt gypped by them.
You said something like that and…didn’t get punched in the face?!
Holy shit.
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No one should have to tell you, Spokane. That’s common sense.
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It was in a thank you card and they live halfway across the country.
No one should have to tell you, Spokane. That’s common sense.
Then I guess I lack it. I can’t see all these unwritten rules in life. How am I supposed to know something is going to offend if it doesn’t offend me or everyone laughs about it?
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It was in a thank you card and they live halfway across the country.
That’s even worse. Not only did you insult them with the statement but you show cowardice by doing it long distance in writing.
Then I guess I lack it. I can’t see all these unwritten rules in life. How am I supposed to know something is going to offend if it doesn’t offend me or everyone laughs about it?
As hard as it may be for a person who is autistic in some way, the best way is to put yourself in their shoes rather than compare it to your own feelings. If you were at an age of adolescence or younger I’d say this isn’t that big of a deal but you’re 24 years old, and you’ve been at this game for long enough now to be able to get it. I don’t care what people say about Autism, it’s a social disorder and social behaviors can not only be learned but changed, and you’ve proven that to us.
Here’s something you said in a thread about a certain website that’s considered taboo.
I didn’t post it, I said the name but since you censored it, now I know that was the correct answer.
You’ve demonstrated that you can learn an unwritten rule, not to talk about something that is offensive to someone else, so don’t bullshit us by saying you don’t have common sense and can’t see unwritten rules because it’s a bogus and completely false excuse.
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I am not using it as an excuse. Those people piss me off when they do. I am not going to use the word cheap anymore to people. Only on myself and to my parents and to my husband to spare me the trouble. Like I say, we learn from experience. I did not mean anything bad by it when I said it at the wedding and to my aunt and uncle in the thank you card. I didn’t know cheap was an insult till I started a thread about it on another forum asking why is that compliment so bad or was my aunt over reacting. Then that’s when I got told cheap is an insult and got told why. I started the thread after I got the letter from her. I do believe the whole thing was a misunderstanding because I meant it literally and my aunt took it the other way. I thought being cheap meant frugal with your money and you are careful with it so you don’t go in debt and owe lot of money and you know how to save so you go for clearance items or go for food that is on sale to help with your budget. Maybe my aunt and uncle make enough to pay all their bills but they do not make enough to travel far to go to family reunions or to my cousin’s wedding in 2005 and then can still pay their bills when they get back but they don’t make enough for that.
As hard as it may be for a person who is autistic in some way, the best way is to put yourself in their shoes rather than compare it to your own feelings.
That doesn’t always work. I do not know how others are going to feel if they feel different things than I do and get offended by different things. I’m not psychic. I can only learn from experience like if I say things and it’s offended a few people already by it, then I know not to say that to anyone because it could offend them, even if it doesn’t offend everybody. I never know what could offend someone so if I have already had that experience, I don’t say it to anyone to spare the trouble. If I am afraid something might offend someone, I don’t say it. Now if I were using it as an excuse I would be saying anything I want and not caring if I hurt people and not write my aunt an apology letter and think “Oh I have Asperger’s, it’s okay if I offend people, I don’t need to take responsibility or learn from it.”
You’ve demonstrated that you can learn an unwritten rule, not to talk about something that is offensive to someone else, so don’t bullshit us by saying you don’t have common sense and can’t see unwritten rules because it’s a bogus and completely false excuse.
How is that website offensive? It has nothing bad on it. I couldn’t understand Vickie’s reason and I truly did not know what site got censored in that thread so I asked and it turns out I was correct.
PS I said I lack common sense, I didn’t say I didn’t have it. I can see unwritten rules once I have learned them. Doesn’t mean I will see new ones on my own without experience or asking questions or being told.
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I am not using it as an excuse.
I didn’t say you were, I merely said you don’t HAVE an excuse.
That doesn’t always work. I do not know how others are going to feel if they feel different things than I do and get offended by different things. I’m not psychic.
No, telepathy is not what I was referring to. Empathy, it’s a very basic, instinctual feeling all humans share from time to time.
How is that website offensive? It has nothing bad on it. I couldn’t understand Vickie’s reason and I truly did not know what site got censored in that thread so I asked and it turns out I was correct.
There’s no need to understand why it’s offensive, the only thing you need to know is it is taboo and thus the censoring. As weird as that sounds it’s something you’ll just have to go with.
PS I said I lack common sense, I didn’t say I didn’t have it.
The two phrases are one in the same semantically. To lack is to not have.
I can see unwritten rules once I have learned them. Doesn’t mean I will see new ones on my own without experience or asking questions or being told.
That was not the point. The point was you are 24 years old and I’m sure you’ve come by several instances in your life where, on any particular holiday that gives out gifts, you didn’t receive one from a certain person, friend or family. If you never questioned it then, why question it now?
Hell, I know you’ve had an instance where you didn’t receive a gift from a friend. You and I used to talk a lot, and were good friends. I even knew your birthday but I didn’t send you a gift. You didn’t ask me for one, you didn’t question it, and just like your aunt, I live far, far away cross multiple state lines. So really, why of all times would you now call someone’s cards on not getting you a present for your wedding?
By the way, I do want to clarify something. One of the definitions of cheap, and this is an actual definition (not slang) is “Greedy.” Before this post I looked that up, there’s no actual unwritten rule about using the word cheap because it is by definition an insult.
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Cramps aren’t normal at the early stage of pregnancy, unless you have what they call an ectopic pregnancy. This is a dangerous condition that can be life threatening. The mention about the heat is another clue. Take your temp, and if it’s above normal, get to a doctor asap.
Ectopic pregnancy is where the egg is actually fertilized and attaches in the fallopian tube, not in the uterus. As it grows, it can cause hemorrhaging and death.
See a doctor to be safe.
BB
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Hell, I know you’ve had an instance where you didn’t receive a gift from a friend. You and I used to talk a lot, and were good friends. I even knew your birthday but I didn’t send you a gift. You didn’t ask me for one, you didn’t question it, and just like your aunt, I live far, far away cross multiple state lines. So really, why of all times would you now call someone’s cards on not getting you a present for your wedding?
By the way, I do want to clarify something. One of the definitions of cheap, and this is an actual definition (not slang) is “Greedy.” Before this post I looked that up, there’s no actual unwritten rule about using the word cheap because it is by definition an insult.
That’s because I don’t expect gifts from friends or people. It’s rude to ask for gifts too. I used to not understand why it’s rude but I still didn’t ask for one. I realize now why it be rude. Because no one should have to feel they should always get someone something just because that person is expecting it. I did not expect wedding gifts from anybody or from people who couldn’t come or didn’t come. I wasn’t mad at my aunt and uncle that they didn’t come. She and her family got me several wedding gifts and packed it in one box and my grandparents bought it out to me when they came and yes I was very surprised they got us a gift. I was surprised when I got two other checks from people who didn’t come to my wedding and cash from my husband’s old boss even though he couldn’t come because he had to work unexopectly but his wife and kids came. I sent out thank you cards to people thanking them for their checks or gifts cards or gift. You always send out thank you cards to people for when they give you a wedding present or birthday gift when you have invited them. I wanted them to know how much I appreciate it. I just hope I didn’t offend anyone else and I told my aunt in my apology letter I was sorry for the compliment I made, I did not mean to hurt her and I appreciate her pointing that out to me. I explained my side of the story hoping she understands. I would have called her but I didn’t have her number.
I did say “Not cheap enough to not get us a wedding present” meaning she did. I might have said it backwards then if it meant they didn’t. They may be unable to come long ways due to money perhaps but she is still able to send people gifts because buying things and mailing it is not expensive as it is when you travel but some people still can’t afford it. We got nothing from my in laws or sister or brother in law because they don’t have the money and they’re poor so it’s not their fault. I knew that was probably going to happen but I didn’t care.
PS not everyone sends out thank you cards. I didn’t get one from one of my old friends when I gave her and her boy a late Christmas present at my wedding. Instead she thanked me through myspace and I have thanked her through myspace when she got me a Christmas present when I was 22. I have sent one of my online friends a Christmas present in 2005 and I think he thanked me through email. If I had all my relatives email addresses or had them on facebook or myspace, I would have thanked them through there.
OMG. Spokane Girl - go to a doctor. It sounds like you may be pregnant.
As for your aunt, write her an apology (or even call her) and tell her what you just told us - that you did not know you were being offensive. If she understands you, she should understand why you did not know. In any case, don’t just let it go unattended.
I took care of it. I wrote her an apology right after I read her letter and it took me an hour to do and I would have called her instead but I didn’t have ehr number. I got ehr number today through whitepages (why didn’t I think of it before? doh) and I am going to see if I hear from her again. If not, I will call her to see if the misunderstanding is sorted out and if she got the letter. I also apologized for forgetting to include my cousin in the card.
I don’t know if I am pregnant or not yet because my period has came late before in the past and then I would finally get it. My breasts have also been sore in the past when I wasn’t even pregnant so it’s hard to tell. I am going to wait all week to see if it comes. If not, I will get myself a pregnancy test. Then I will take babybutt’s advice and go to the doctor to see, if the results on the test were positive of course. I will also consider the temperature thing too.
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That’s because I don’t expect gifts from friends or people. It’s rude to ask for gifts too.
Then WHY would you bring it up to your aunt? If you don’t expect a gift from anyone, why would you basically say to your any why didn’t I get a gift from you? You make no sense.
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Read my post again. They got us a gift. I made a compliment to them I thought but I didn’t know it be an insult. I was surprised they got us something, I was surprised my husband’s old boss gave us cash as a wedding present, I was surprised we got a $100 check from my dad’s friend and his wife, I was surprised we got a $40 dollar check from my cousin and niether of them came to our wedding.
I don’t know why you got the impression they didn’t get us one so maybe I had it backwards when I said it. I do that sometimes.
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This is drifting way off-topic.
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Indeed, how unlucky of us 
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I think I won the argument. Yay.
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You won nothing.