Hell, I know you’ve had an instance where you didn’t receive a gift from a friend. You and I used to talk a lot, and were good friends. I even knew your birthday but I didn’t send you a gift. You didn’t ask me for one, you didn’t question it, and just like your aunt, I live far, far away cross multiple state lines. So really, why of all times would you now call someone’s cards on not getting you a present for your wedding?
By the way, I do want to clarify something. One of the definitions of cheap, and this is an actual definition (not slang) is “Greedy.” Before this post I looked that up, there’s no actual unwritten rule about using the word cheap because it is by definition an insult.
That’s because I don’t expect gifts from friends or people. It’s rude to ask for gifts too. I used to not understand why it’s rude but I still didn’t ask for one. I realize now why it be rude. Because no one should have to feel they should always get someone something just because that person is expecting it. I did not expect wedding gifts from anybody or from people who couldn’t come or didn’t come. I wasn’t mad at my aunt and uncle that they didn’t come. She and her family got me several wedding gifts and packed it in one box and my grandparents bought it out to me when they came and yes I was very surprised they got us a gift. I was surprised when I got two other checks from people who didn’t come to my wedding and cash from my husband’s old boss even though he couldn’t come because he had to work unexopectly but his wife and kids came. I sent out thank you cards to people thanking them for their checks or gifts cards or gift. You always send out thank you cards to people for when they give you a wedding present or birthday gift when you have invited them. I wanted them to know how much I appreciate it. I just hope I didn’t offend anyone else and I told my aunt in my apology letter I was sorry for the compliment I made, I did not mean to hurt her and I appreciate her pointing that out to me. I explained my side of the story hoping she understands. I would have called her but I didn’t have her number.
I did say “Not cheap enough to not get us a wedding present” meaning she did. I might have said it backwards then if it meant they didn’t. They may be unable to come long ways due to money perhaps but she is still able to send people gifts because buying things and mailing it is not expensive as it is when you travel but some people still can’t afford it. We got nothing from my in laws or sister or brother in law because they don’t have the money and they’re poor so it’s not their fault. I knew that was probably going to happen but I didn’t care.
PS not everyone sends out thank you cards. I didn’t get one from one of my old friends when I gave her and her boy a late Christmas present at my wedding. Instead she thanked me through myspace and I have thanked her through myspace when she got me a Christmas present when I was 22. I have sent one of my online friends a Christmas present in 2005 and I think he thanked me through email. If I had all my relatives email addresses or had them on facebook or myspace, I would have thanked them through there.
OMG. Spokane Girl - go to a doctor. It sounds like you may be pregnant.
As for your aunt, write her an apology (or even call her) and tell her what you just told us - that you did not know you were being offensive. If she understands you, she should understand why you did not know. In any case, don’t just let it go unattended.
I took care of it. I wrote her an apology right after I read her letter and it took me an hour to do and I would have called her instead but I didn’t have ehr number. I got ehr number today through whitepages (why didn’t I think of it before? doh) and I am going to see if I hear from her again. If not, I will call her to see if the misunderstanding is sorted out and if she got the letter. I also apologized for forgetting to include my cousin in the card.
I don’t know if I am pregnant or not yet because my period has came late before in the past and then I would finally get it. My breasts have also been sore in the past when I wasn’t even pregnant so it’s hard to tell. I am going to wait all week to see if it comes. If not, I will get myself a pregnancy test. Then I will take babybutt’s advice and go to the doctor to see, if the results on the test were positive of course. I will also consider the temperature thing too.