i’ve been trying to tell my parents about been TB/DL for a while now and i think i might do it in the next few days. i’m going to do it by email and i was wondering if any of you had some ideas as to what i should put in it.
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Do you have any reason why you want to tell them?
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If that is your only reason, I would say don’t do it.
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The best way for your parents to be okay with it is to not even know about it to begin with.
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Agrees with Kita
When I came out of the closet to my parents about being transgendered, and then just a little under a week later the rest of my family, everything changed. I stopped getting calls from some of my family members who used to call all the time, it’s -very- obvious how careful people are trying to be with their words now; hell even my grandmothers first response was comparing how many sins I’m committing in the bible to my cousin. She was considered to be worse, but did she really think that’s the way I wanted her or anyone to view it? As if I’m somehow less in the negative than her but still in the negative, implying that Sins have some sort of numerical value let alone what I’m doing is sinful to begin with.
So yes, it’s not worth it. Even if your family is 100% okay with it, they could still easily find something to hate about it. For me, if I were to tell my mother, it’s likely that she’ll hate it because of how much money I’ve spent on it (it really isn’t a cheap lifestyle).
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I agree with everything that has been said above. There are some things parents are not meant to know, and this is one of them.
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Don’t lie if confronted, don’t offer information.
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No…it doesn’t. You’ve basically willed yourself into believing they need to know, and by not acting on it, you think you’re doing something wrong.
You are not.
Let me ask you, what if you went down and your parents started talking to you about their sex life? What if they told you they did it doggy style or had tantric sex or practiced kama sutra or something. Is that something you really want to hear or care about?
I can imagine that there are underlying reasons you want to tell your parents that you might not be consciously aware of. Almost every AB has that dream that their mothers, their real mothers, will baby them every once in a while. So by thinking and willing yourself into believing your parents need to know, you seem to basically feel like they don’t just need to know but almost need to be involved.
This is only a hypothesis, and could be entirely false, but this is what I gather from your posts. If it is true, I have to tell you, don’t come out of the closet to them in hopes this would happen. Even if they are open minded about fetishes and wouldn’t automatically think you a pedophile like many would, there are still other ways it could piss them off.
“You’re spending how much money on diapers?!”
“This is just an excuse to not have any responsibility in life.”
“I don’t care if you like it, sitting in your feces is disgusting and harmful to your body, use the toilet like an adult.”
“Those diapers are meant for the disabled and the elderly, not you!”
Etc, etc.
The point is, don’t do it because you feel like they need to know. If you feel you absolutely have to tell them, do it for yourself, and -only- yourself, regardless of what they think or feel.
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ima go along with what has been said and say this. sometimes, ignorance is bliss.
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gabzas, exactly how old are you? your thread seems to indicate you’re in your early teens, because what your logic says to me is that you haven’t experienced your affinity towards diapers for very long, at least not much as you’re experiencing it now, and that you want to relieve some of the weight of it by telling your parents about it. If I’m right about your age, then just wait a few more years and you’ll find it much easier to keep quiet about.
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I definately wouldn’t tell them. I actually have thought about telling my parents myself. I know the feeling that they need to know, but its okay if they don’t. For some reason I have a feeling my mom knows, but she has never confronted me so I let it be. Bear this in mind, someone I know told their parents, it was great at first. They were allowed to continue on wear diapers nearly all the time, except when their father would find out. Well life was great for them until their mother had a change of heart/mind. Now they aren’t even allowed to talk to aother ABDLs. That’s just a possiblility that could happen even if they accepted it at first. I agree that sometimes ignorance is bliss.
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My dad found a story I was reading on Deeker one night back when I was 13 or 14. It was when my computer had Windows 98 and didn’t have separate accounts. It was around 1 AM and my dad yelled at me to go to bed. I minimized the screen with the story and acted like I was going to bed, but I fell asleep. A couple days later my dad mentioned it and said he didn’t want me going to that site anymore. he mentioned another site also, but I don’t remember which one it was.
After that I became a lot more careful about what I did online and where I went and such.
A few months after that incident he threatened to tell everyone in my Boy Scout troop. I don’t remember why.
He hasn’t mentioned it since, so I guess he forgot about it.