In my short, almost 24, years on this planet, I have come to the conclusion that I really dislike waiting for other people to do things. It’s one of the more annoying and constraining feelings that I experience, and I don’t fancy experiencing either of those feelings.
Of course, when you do things alone, most of the time, people around you have to comment on it.
My family has been getting onto me recently about my lack of social contact with the outside world. Don’t get me wrong, I really do enjoy hanging out with people; I’m at my happiest when I’m with a like-minded person. The problem comes with schedules, lives, and habits (like showing up late!) and other such things. People, in of themselves, are nice to be with; other things just make it a hassle.
My mother and I have taken up bowling on Sunday mornings. In a compromise to get her off my back about being social, I agreed to join a bowling league.
Tonight was the first meeting.
The brochure said to show up at 6:30pm; that’s exactly what I did (showed up ten minutes early, actually). There are four other people there along with me. Nothing seems to be happening beyond the lady at the front desk telling me that they’re waiting for more people to show up.
This is when I start getting annoyed.
The brochure said 6:30pm. For heavens sake, folks; show up at 6:30pm! But no; it was not to be. The lady at the front desk doesn’t even walk over to us (now three people, as two got bored and left) until a full 40 minutes later to tell us that the league has been cancelled due to a lack of participation. But wait; we’re free to join another league that meets the same night–it just doesn’t start for another half hour.
At that point, I gave up. I’m am too annoyed to wait any longer or postpone a later commitment that I made; so I left.
I’m not so self-important that I think I’m better than anyone else. However, to me, it’s a matter of respect to show up when someone (or something) tells you to if you wish to participate in some activity. Maybe my attitude comes from owning my own business; I have learned over the years that time really does equal money. But, most of the time, I just hate waiting.
This is why I do things alone. I don’t have to wait for me to show up; I am wherever I am. If I want to go somewhere, I just go. No calls, no emails, no plans, no wasted effort.