Does anyone else struggle with reconciling their AB/DLism with their faith? If anyone has gone through this how have they solved it? Thanks!
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To be brutally honest, I have no faith.
I’m not a Christian, don’t belong to any normal faith or religion or anything. Religion has never run my life, I’ve been inside a church twice in my life, and I’ve never touched a bible.
I’m also not an atheist; they’re like the opposite of christians. Christians believe 100% there is a god, and atheists believe 100% there isn’t. I don’t like to get tangled up in that kind of thing.
I’ve reconciled with myself that I am who I am and really don’t intend on changing that for anyone.
I doubt that really helps your particular situation but this is how I go through life the way I am. I have no shame of who or what I am, and if people don’t like me because of it, they can go fuck themselves.
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Paul said “I know and am persuaded in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself, but it is unclean for anyone who thinks it unclean.” (Rom 14:14)
That’s the simplest answer I can give you. Your faith should be the guiding light in this matter, not the point of contention, but if your faith hasn’t grown to the point where you can reconcile God and your AB/DL tendencies, then you already know the answer to your question.
Oh - and anyone who throws the “spills his seed on the ground” bit at you can go take a flying leap, because that was a specific order to a specific group of people for a specific purpose - building a nation. Hard to do that if no one’s getting pregnant because guys are jerking off instead of having sex with their wives.
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That’s exactly my point, and exactly the reason I quoted it. 
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I’m mostly the same, but I disagree on your wording here:
Christians Theists believe 100% there is a god or gods, and some atheists believe 100% there isn’t, most are still waiting for valid evidence of a god or gods.
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I’m similar to Jaclyn in this respect. I’m not Christian and don’t really believe in anything. Religion just isn’t for me.
I have been to church a few times over the years. I do own a Bible, but it was a gift given to me by a woman my dad used to work with.
In my years of being a Boy Scout I had to go to church for Scout Sunday once every year, though I only went maybe 4 times out of the 11 or 12 years I was in that troop. I mostly just sat there and faked it.
The Boy Scouts of America is a religious organization and they “maintain that no member can grow into the best kind of citizen without recognizing an obligation to God.”
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Does anyone else struggle with reconciling their AB/DLism with their faith? If anyone has gone through this how have they solved it? Thanks!
I used to struggle reconciling it with myself, more than anything else. There were probably times in my life, specifically throughout my childhood, where I worried what God thought of me, but what it all really came down to was that I thought of my desires as shameful and loathesome, and I often struggled with self-disgust. My problem was that the source of my self-disgust was also the source of some of my greatest release. I’ve never been able to derive such pleasure, physically or emotionally, from anything else in life. Eventually I learned that there were other people like me, and knowing that you’re not alone can go a very long way toward reconciling yourself with your desires.
I’m not Christian. I’m one of those people who describes themselves as “Not very religious, but deeply spiritual.” I have a very close relationship with my Higher Power, whom I know as God, and in whom I have incredible faith. I don’t think it’s entirely possible to convey my understanding of God to you with words, because it’s an understanding that I’ve developed through feeling.
Do you have anyone in your life that loves you unconditionally? Do you know anyone, man or woman, who would forgive you almost anything? Someone who doesn’t care about what you do, but who you are? In my life, I’ve found a few friends like this. I know of some people in whom I feel I could confide anything and everything about myself, and who love me – in spite and because of my quirks. I have people in my life who know the deepest, darkest details of my wildest and most incredibly intimate secrets. When you have someone like that in your life, I think it gives you a better idea of how God sees you. Not the bigger picture, maybe, but a bigger portion of the picture.
God doesn’t harbor resentments. God doesn’t look at you in disgust because you were thinking sexual thoughts about the woman down the street. God was, and is, the creative planning that went into every facet of your human soul. Consider that for a moment. Think of the magnitude of it. God (however you understand God), designed your eternal soul. This entity, this omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent force of unimaginable mercy and benevolence, understands every part of you, perhaps better than you will ever understand yourself, and loves you. So, as long as you aren’t doing anything that interferes with the life of someone else or potentially jeopardizing your safety, why should you ever have any reason to be ashamed?
That’s just my take on it, anyway.
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It was a generalization. Most monotheists are sure there is a god and most atheists are sure there isn’t, some, both monotheistic and atheistic, are in between but not all.
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That was not jerking off. It was pulling out. Onan was supposed to marry his dead brother’s wife and give her an heir but he wouldn’t because it would divide his one inheritance. Has nothing to do with this.
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this is probably the biggest struggle I have with my ab side. However, I wanted to explain a little further. For the record I am a Christian and my faith in very important to me. The walk with God is a difficult one at best. It is a daily walk and one the for me anyway is the most important relationship I have. So much so that I would give up anything if proven that it was wrong and sinful in the eyes of the Lord. That being said there is not text in the Bible that says that being an adult baby is wrong. In fact the only two comments that the Bible makes about children are in the Gospels were Jesus Christ says that we are to have the faith of a child and in the letters of Paul where he talks about putting away childish things. Which is talking about a way of thinking not diapers. If you struggle with this then ask yourself some deep questions. Why does this bother me? What does the Bible say about the matter? and does it effect my walk with God and his son Jesus Christ? This should be enough to get you to the answer you are looking for. I hope this helps. As for me I will be an Adult Baby for Christ till the day I meet him in heaven.
Babychris
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In fact the only two comments that the Bible makes about children are in the Gospels were Jesus Christ says that we are to have the faith of a child and in the letters of Paul where he talks about putting away childish things.
There’s a quote by C.S. Lewis (an avid Christian) about that, actually. It’s one of my favorite quotes of all time:
“When I became a man, I put away childish things. Including my fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”
Obviously there are different ways to apply that to your life. C.S. Lewis was an avid reader of fairy tales and a long-time lover of stories that were generally deemed fit only for children. I don’t remember where it was that I read the full quote, but I seem to recall a passage in which the author explains that he struggled to reconcile his love for children’s stories with his Christian faith, specifically as a result of that bible passage. For a time, I believe he actually put aside his fairy tales and pushed away his creative side. It wasn’t until much later that he realized that obsessively avoiding his children’s stories – a source of comfort and joy, and more than that, a spark of wonder that kindled his creativity – was, in fact, more childish than the act of reading them. Imagine what we would have lost if C.S. Lewis had never indulged his creativity?